As a parent in a leadership role, your time is precious—and so is everyone else’s. We used to assume that when we wanted to “pick someone’s brain,” they’d just make themselves available. But times have changed. Leaders are busier than ever, and being constantly connected means boundaries are more important than ever.
So, if you’re reaching out to someone who’s successful, well-connected, and has decades of experience, remember: their time is valuable. It shouldn’t be assumed that they’ll just give it away. Instead, here’s how to approach networking with respect and intention:
1. Pay for Expertise – Platforms like https://www.pickmybrain.world/ (not affiliated, just aware) allow you to compensate people for their time. Knowledge is valuable—sometimes, paying for it is the right move.
2. Show Appreciation – If someone gives you their time, send a thank-you note, a small gift, or even a coffee gift card. A little effort goes a long way.
3. Take Them to Coffee or a Meal – If they’re open to an in-person meeting, cover the bill. It’s a simple but meaningful way to acknowledge their generosity.
And let’s talk about some frustrating networking missteps I hear about often:
1. Lack of Clarity – If you request a meeting, be crystal clear on what you need. “I’d love to chat” isn’t a compelling reason for someone to give you their time.
2. Making Them Do the Work – If you’re asking for their time, you schedule it. Don’t make them coordinate—just like you wouldn’t want someone to add another logistical task to your already full plate.
3. Asking for Competitive Intel – If you’re in the same industry, don’t ask for insider knowledge. It’s awkward and unprofessional.
As parents in leadership, we know the value of time—ours and others’. Networking today is about being intentional and respectful.
Have you noticed this shift too? What’s worked (or not) for you?