From the outside, you look like you’ve figured it out. You’ve got the title. You’ve got the personal life with the kids doing their thing. And you’ve got the calendar that somehow seems to keep you running on time (mostly). And you have it figured out. That’s not the problem.
The problem is the thing you’re not saying out loud: you’re not sure how long you can keep this pace before something gives. You’re not miserable and that actually makes it harder to name. You’re just not fully yourself. I hear it ALL. THE. TIME from my clients.
Performing Well Isn’t the Same as Being in the Right Seat.
I get it because I’ve lived it, too. High performance! Real results! And, an inner knowing that I was optimizing for someone else’s version of success. I wasn’t betting on myself. I was playing by the rules and getting rewarded for it. The rules just weren’t mine.
I didn’t grind harder to figure it out. I did the opposite. I stepped back – you can read all about it in Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3, but essentially, I spent time and asking myself questions my job title never asked me. What do I actually want? What am I sacrificing to maintain this version of myself? Am I in the right seat? Am I living in alignment with my values? What’s possible if I bet on myself? What’s at risk?
Betting on Yourself Starts with Telling the Truth.
For me, the real bet was leaving a steady paycheck, a growing career, an amazing team – and leaning fully into my gifts, my strengths, and my values. That’s not a prescription for everyone. But this part has to be non-negotiable: getting radically honest about whether where you are is actually where you belong. Yes, it can be scary to look at yourself this way because once you know you can’t unsee it.
As a parent in leadership, you know the cost compounds fast. You bring your best to work and come home running on fumes, trying to give what’s left to the people who need you most. You’re good at it. But “good at it” and “built for this” are NOT the same thing.
You don’t have to blow up your career to bet on yourself. You do have to stop running long enough to ask if you’re running in the right direction.
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